February 24, 2012
Dear Helena, Sebastian, and Stella,
Today is the day that I found out that the cancer has likely spread to my liver and my lower spine. Daddy and I are just in complete shock.
My surgeon, Dr. Yeh, told us that it probably wasn’t even in my lymph nodes before my double mastectomy on the 16th. So when she had to take 2/3 of my lymph nodes on my right side during the surgery, because the nodes were positive for cancer, it was quite a shock. She scheduled the PET scan and CT scans for today to see if it had spread, but we didn’t think it had. We all thought we had caught it early and it was all taken out during the mastectomy surgery. Now we don’t know that the spots on my liver and lower spine are for sure cancer…we won’t know until next week when they do a biopsy and bone scan.
In the mean-time, I wanted to write to you, my precious children whom I have prayed for since the moment I knew you were growing inside of me, and tell you how very much I love you. Even though what lies ahead seems like a very, very tall mountain, I am going to put on my hiking gear and forge ahead, because getting to the other side is what I WILL do. I have put my entire faith in our Lord and know that He will be with me every step of the way; with Him ALL things are possible. I want all three of you to grow up to love Jesus; I try to tell you about Him as often as I can. And we try to show you how much He loves you through the way we treat you and love you.
Helena, you have told me several times in the past few days that you want things to go back to normal--when it’s just Daddy, me, you, Sebastian, and Stella. I want things to go back to normal, too, baby. Unfortunately, we have a new normal around here. I am so thankful for your MarMar who has dropped everything and come to Augusta to stay with us, to help us. She has been getting up in the morning and giving you your bottle, Stella. She has been changing your poopy diapers, Sebastian. She has been reading you your favorite books, Helena. She loves you all so much and is here to help us because I’m not able to do the normal things I usually do.
I am healing quickly from my double mastectomy. Helena you’ve told me you like my new little boobies. And you’ve asked when I’m going to get the round things (areolas/nipples). Sebastian you have been so sweet and gentle with me and careful not to hurt me. Stella, you have been affected by this the most, I’m afraid. I’m not able to lift you up and hold you and I think I miss it just as much as you do. I sit on the floor a lot and let you climb into my lap, but it’s just not the same.
Your Daddy is an amazing man and I want you all to know how very much I love him, too. His faith in Jesus has never weakened and He is such a great source of strength for me. Helena and Stella, I hope that you are able to find a husband who will love you as much as your Daddy loves me. Sebastian, I hope that you will be the kind of husband your Daddy is to me. He works hard for us, he prays for us, and he loves us more than anything.
I love you Helena, Sebastian, and Stella. Each of you children were choices that your Daddy and I made; we wanted each of you in our lives and are so very blessed by your presence in ours. We love you more than any other thing in our lives, except for our Heavenly Father, and hope that we have made that perfectly evident in everything we do with and for you.
I love you Helena Claire Elise. I love you Sebastian Edward. I love you Stella Paige Anniella.
Love,
Momma